MBCH Children and Family Ministries
Types of Adoption
A private adoption means the child's biological parent has legal custody and has chosen to make an adoption plan for the child.
MBCH has a long history of facilitating private adoptions. In recent years, however, MBCH has seen a decline in the number of private adoptions because the biological parents more often choose to parent their child now than in the past. MBCH does not pressure the biological parents to parent or to make an adoption plan. If the parents choose an adoption plan MBCH helps facilitate that adoption providing education/support to the parents as well as providing education/support to the adoptive family. If the biological parents choose to parent their child, MBCH provides education/support to help them be the best parents they can be.
State Custody Adoption
When a child cannot be placed with their biological parents or a relative, adoptive parents are needed for the child to have a legally permanent home. Adoptive parents assume all responsibility for the child as if he/she was born to them. Adoptive parents are chosen for a child based on their ability to meet that child’s needs.
Foster parents may have the option to adopt the foster children in their care if the children are unable to placed with biological family members.
Open adoption is a child-centered process. MBCH Children & Family Ministries encourages open adoptions when the situation is appropriate. Not every situation is conducive to open adoption.
Obviously, in cases of severe abuse and/or neglect by the biological parents, it may not be in the best interest of children to have contact with their biological parents. In situations where contact would not be detrimental, open adoption is a way for the children to have knowledge of their biological family.
It can be a healing process for children to learn the reasons their biological parents were unable to parent them and the choice of the parents to place them with a loving, adoptive family. Open adoption also becomes a way to stay abreast of the biological family's medical history.
For private infant adoptions coordinated through MBCH Children & Family Ministries, the practice is for the birth mother and/or father to choose the family for their child. Non-identifying adoptive family profiles are presented to the birth parents. They will choose two or three families and receive more information about them. The life books for these families are then shared with the birth parents.
If the birth parents have decided to have an open adoption they have the choice of meeting with the adoptive parents if they wish to decide on the degree of openness. They can also choose to arrange the amount of openness through an intermediary.
It is important that the adoptive parents are as honest about the extent of openness they are comfortable with as the plan is based on the good faith of the adoptive parents. Legally, there is no binding contract and the decisions of contact rest solely on the adoptive parents after the finalization of the adoption. MBCH Children and Family Ministries expect its adoptive parents to honor the commitments they make with birth parents.
See further information about open adoption here: Open Adoption (word document)